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Mr Prince Harming

I first came across Karen Salmansohn, a year ago in my FaceBook feed. I was curious about her tag on her website, “Self Help for People Who Wouldn’t Be Caught Dead Doing Self-Help”. The line was catchy, and I liked how she played with the area of self-help, that seemed to become increasingly popular. People were starting to become more self-aware, wanting to understand “why are they here” and “what is there purpose”. As the case when something seems to be on trend, you get different people popping out of the woodwork, giving their two cents!  I also like people who do not sound too “cliche”.

“Oprah Winfrey is a fan”

As I navigated around her website, I also found out that she had been endorsed by Oprah Winfrey, which is always a good sign. I paid attention to a book that she wrote on dating, called: Prince Harming Syndrome. I loved two things here: 1) The play with words and 2)  It was about breaking bad relationship patterns. This was different to how to the love acquisition styled books, which shouted how to get the one. As mentioned by Karen, this will not make a lasting happy ever after style relationship.

“You can have your happy ending”

I liked how Karen started the book with giving an account of her old relationship pattern, with the Prince Harming type, to where she is today with her husband and son Ari. From reading the book, I learnt where she got the inspiration for naming her son.

“It’s an inside job”

There are three types of categories of relationships described in the book. Two out of the three, you do not want to fall into if you really want to have a sustaining relationship. In the book, Karen looks not only at the outward view of looking for love but also about your internal workings. So often, people are going looking for things when they do not truly know the person inside. Like with the philosophy of letting things in: sometimes you need to let go of the negative baggage, which is not really serving your purpose. This can mean past relationships, and even the stories that you may have learnt from your parents. So it is therefore an inside story.

Be LOVING

Be kind. Being kind is about loving you, as well as being loving to others. In a relationship as Karen states, you need to be a good listener and show appreciation. Often when we think we have something, we may start to take it for granted. People want to feel special.

“Fools Rush In”

Shakespeare, who has to be one of my all time favourite writers, once said that if you act in haste, then you will repent in leisure. Too often in the dating game, people like to jump in and forget to ask those questions that are important to them. And you can see this when you read articles where people complain about being in a relationship, where their partner does not want to commit. As Karen suggests, the early stages of a relationship is getting to know the person. Find out what their views are on commitment, what is important to them, and I do not want to ruin the surprise for you so read the book to find out the rest!

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Tell me about those “3” things you want….

I do not like New Year resolutions, as I believe that you should constantly be setting new goals. Why wait to the end of the year to decide to do something big? I like to have direction, and find it nice to look forward to things. One of the things that I have been excited about since 2011 is my website SophiaWorld, also known as my baby. I see it as a website where people can come and feel that they have been dosed with inspirations and positivity. Day 13 blog challenge was all to do with my intentions for my website.

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What three things would you most like your website to have and how will you go about getting them?

Tell me what is it that you do”

When I first started SophiaWorld it was a creative output. I did not have a clear purpose for what the website was. Time went on and I seemed to have developed a common theme – wellness and lifestyle. It was one editor who once tagged me as the “lifestyle writer”. At the beginning of this year, I decided that I needed to monetize from the website. One question that came up after I would touch base with the people whom I network with was, “tell me what the purpose of your site is?” So it became evident that the message of my website was not clear.  I did some homework, even contacted a blogging coach. The feedback was that I needed to find a niche. Love seemed to be an obvious and popular choice; and it tied in with the book I was writing: the Love Series. Have you noticed the banners on this website? I decided to stay true with my intention of taking my audience on a self-exploratory journey, where they see my highs and lows; and there is always a theme of positivity. This is the message that I will convey. I have already started to work with a copywriter. I will also be working with my website designer so that I can change the home page

tell me what you want...

“I want people to easily find me”
Following from the website needing to have a clear a message, I want more people to find me through “keyword” searches. So I will be working on this.

“What can I offer people?”

Besides my audience getting to know me through my blogs, I will be offering more. This will be through my books. The first one being the Naked Series. I want to inspire them and boost their positivity and confidence. Maybe the latter should be my main website tag.  I like what the writer Karen Salmansohn has done with her website. I will eventually have a site similar to her one where my different offerings are made available.

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