For some of you whom are familiar with the artist and entrepreneur Jay-Z, AKA Mr Carter, you may have heard of his song title, “99 problems”. In this he describes his experience of being pulled over by the police due to racial profiling and discrimination. I will not go further with the story here, but if you want to listen to the song, click on the YouTube click below:
“You have more problems in your life, than a person with more responsibilities”
In my life so far, as I have moved with the flow of time, I have encountered different challenges from dealing with my everyday basic needs to the conflicts in relationships. As a result, I had times when I felt stressed or defeated. On one occasion, a friend who has two children made the statement, “You have more problems than people who had family responsibilities”. She was not saying that my issues were less important because there were other people, who had to weigh in their other responsibilities. She was asking me, why did I perceive myself to have complications.
“Life does not have to be complicated”
So this statement poised by my friend made me question whether I was making my life complicated. This was interesting one as when I used to work in the corporate arena, where there would be month-end deadlines to achieve, even if it meant working up to 12 in the morning; I would often say: “If something was taking too long or complicated; then there was an issue with the process”. So why was I not taking this over to my personal life? I’ve forgotten about simplicity.
We often like to complicate things. I find that young persons, not to generalize, are very wise. They see things as they are and they tend not to complicate things. I think as we get older and information is fed to us; and we become sensitive to social conditions, we often get suspicious of something being easy. So we then have a tendency to make things complicated. Things do not have to be complicated, even Steve Jobs, one of my favourite innovators of all time said this:
“That’s been one of my mantras — focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.”
How do you make life semplicità [or simple]?
- Get clarity in what you want. This is not what you ‘should’ want, as this is implying that it is based on what others may want: husband, friend, colleague and the world at large. Did you understand the last point, how you need to want it from within.
- Do not worry about what others may think. The raw truth is that you come into this world on your own, and you leave on your own. So why not live your life instead of living someone else’s life?
- What is important to you? This is where you prioritise what matters to you. To make this easy take a look at your ‘wheel of life’. This circle is divided into sections representing: Physical Environment; Business/Career; Finances; Health; Family & Friends; Romance; Personal Growth; and Fun & Recreation. Please take a look at the image below. Often you may think that you want something, but may realize that something else is more important. For example instead of chasing after the next promotion or launching a new business, you may want to have your first child. There is nothing wrong with this, as this is what your heart is calling out for
- Be Happy – Do things that make you happy. First define what is that you want to be doing. Then start to look at the emotions, of what does happy feel like and taste like. Get your free copy of my Be Happy book here, if you have not got your copy already.
- Make a plan. This does not have to start off in written form.
Have some faith that it is going to be fine. Often we worry too much about things working out well, and it always works out for the best once you believe in what you are doing. Here’s is one of my favourite quotes from Louise Hay:
“All is well.
Everything is working out for my highest good.
Out of this situation only good will come.
I am safe”
Question: how are you going back to simplicity?